Kissing guide for Guys: How to have the best kiss of your life instead of an awkward one
Good things come to those who wait.
If you reach the end of your first date and things are going well, I know it’s tempting to ask for a kiss. I understand the urge. You’re thinking, I like her, it’s just a kiss. I want to see if there is chemistry.
But if she hasn’t given you “the look” and she isn’t ready for it, it’s going to be awkward and terrible. I’ve had guys ask for kisses at the end of dates and it always felt forced. It’s just not worth rushing a woman. It will make her feel like you aren’t respecting her, you are forcing things instead of letting them happen naturally and that you aren’t tuned in to her. When a woman wants a kiss, she will give you, The Look. Bodies close, arms around each other a bit, eyes locked in and gazing up at you. If she’s interested but seems nervous, she will give short glances, look down or away and smile. This look means she wants you to let her know you are interested back. To engage her in conversation and let her know she is safe with you.
But The Look, it’s not shy. It’s confident. She has gotten to know you well enough to know she is interested and she’s ready to move things forward. Wait for this. Wait for her to be have decided it’s time and that she just can’t wait another moment, the tension has been building too long, she must know what your lips taste like, now.
And when your lips finally touch, it’s fireworks.
This will be the kiss she remembers for all her life, the best kiss of her life. The one that after it, she knew you were the one. The one she talks about to her friends and family. And it’s worth the wait, trust me.
‘A thousand kisses buys my heart from me;
And pay them at thy leisure, one by one.
What is ten hundred touches unto thee?
Are they not quickly told and quickly gone?
Say, for non-payment that the debt should double,
Is twenty hundred kisses such a trouble? — From Venus and Adonis by William Shakespeare
The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender. By Emil Ludwig